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The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Jan 21, 2019

I am so excited to share with you my guest interview with Isabel Foxen Duke. I have to admit to being a little bit of a fangirl of Isabel and her work. I have struggled through a lot of the stuff that Isabel is so brilliant with working with women on like weight-cycling, food issues, and emotional eating. She helps women stop feeling crazy around food.

So, are you always on the diet wagon or waaaay the f**k off it? I myself have zero neural pathways around healthy thinking or belief systems as far as food goes. Sure, I’ve learned a few things through therapy and from doing the work, but I still am really early in my own weight recovery journey.  I can guess that many of my listeners are in a similar boat. And that’s why I invited Isabel to the show. She shares her expertise on letting go of the struggle with food and also offers great insight on weight recovery and its effect on relationship dynamics.

Show Highlights

  • Isabel shares openly about her experience with diet culture starting at the age of 3 years old (yes, you read that correctly - she was put on a diet at the age of 3) (5:42 seconds)

  • Letting go of the struggle and how Isabel came to the work she is doing now (21:22)

  • Surrendering to ‘bottoming out’ and understanding that eating a cookie when you are sad is a-okay (28:55)

  • The delusion of control and how recovery is the process of surrendering over and over again (29:27)

  • What surrendering actually looks and feels like (32:00)

  • Weight restoration, understanding that gaining weight when you stop dieting is completely healthy and recovering from post-diet trauma (33:31)

  • Shame over clothing sizes, body image issues and cutting through your own B.S. rationalizations (45:19)

  • Healthy weight gain post-recovery, its effect on relationships, and being with someone who does not support your recovery (47:20)

  • Dealing with family and friends who you can’t divorce and do not understand your weight recovery journey (1:03:20)

Learn More About Isabel:

Isabel Foxen Duke is the Creator of Stop Fighting Food — a free video training program for women who want to "stop feeling crazy around food." After years of trying to overcome emotional eating, binge-eating and chronic weight-cycling through "traditional" and alternative approaches, Isabel discovered some radical new ways to get women over their "food issues" once and for all — not just by shifting the mindsets of individuals, but by challenging the dominant diet culture as a whole. Her writing and free guide, How To Not Eat Cake, can be found at and you can watch her free video training series at  


Isabel’s websites: and

Be sure to check out Isabel’s Free Video Training Series, Stop Fighting Food


I mentioned in the intro that I have a new webinar coming up: Should You Stay In Your Marriage For Your Kids: Three Truths Revealed. Here's the link to sign up for that!