Jun 3, 2020
“If you think what’s going on all across the
U.S. doesn’t have anything to do with what’s going on inside your
marriage, you’re dead wrong.” That’s a line from one of my recent
Instagram posts about this week’s podcast
topic.
So what do racism and systemic
racism (AKA white supremacy) have to do with your marriage,
exactly? The same systems that are oppressing and killing
black men right now, this entire system of white male supremacy, is
the exact same system that we are fighting against in dismantling
the patriarchy.
And that
has everything to
do with your marriage. In this episode, I explain how and why in
detail.
Here's the thing: I decided to just
turn on the microphone and address these topics head-on. And as a
white woman, with my own implicit biases and blind spots, I may
have gotten things wrong. And that's ok. I'm willing to listen and
learn and pivot.
I almost didn't release this episode because I was scared
to get it "wrong." But then I realized that that very
thought/feeling was part of my own white fragility. This fear
is what silences so many white people, and it's our silence that
has allowed this to go on for as long as it has.
White people need to speak up. We need to be willing to step in it,
and when we get called out for getting something "wrong," we need
to say, "Thank you. I hear you," to those who've taken the time to
educate us.
We don't need to be defensive, or work overtime to prove
that we're an "ally." An ally says "thank you," and digests what's
been said by the very people we're purporting to
support.
Bottom line: we need to pull this
poisonous weed of white supremacy up at its root. Let’s get to
work.
Resources & Links:
Anti-racism
resources