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The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Oct 14, 2021

I am back with another solo episode this week. October is domestic violence awareness month, so, I wanted to take this opportunity to talk about a specific type of domestic violence: emotional abuse. Yes, emotional abuse is a form of domestic violence.  

Talking about emotional abuse is part of my healing, my personal journey, and my growth. So much of the work that we do in my Facebook group is around helping women identify emotional abuse and come to terms with the fact that that’s what's happening to them.

We have to talk about emotional abuse.  

We have to talk about it because the more we talk about it, the more we realize we are not alone.  

When women talk about abuse and relate to each other's stories, that's when we rise up and say, “Oh, hell no. No fucking more.”

Show Highlights

  • Owning your victimhood is very important. It is one of the most powerful things you can do. (2:43)
  • You are never going to agree with your abuser about the narrative.  But you get to have your narrative and you get to own it. (8:39)
  • Signs of emotional abuse seen during the traffic stop in the case of Gabby Petito and what the police could have done differently. (11:53)
  • Gaslighting creates and distorts your perception of reality. (13:21)
  • Emotional abuse can look very different from person to person and relationship to relationship. (20:44)
  • Abuse has nothing to do with an abuser’s feelings. It’s about control and entitlement. (23:52)
  • You are not crazy, trust your perceptions! (27:49)

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Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, Lundy Bancroft