Feb 5, 2018
I received an email not too long ago from a reader who asked:
I cheated on my husband. It wasn't a one-time thing, but
it's over now. I'm wracked with guilt, but I also know that if I
tell my husband, it will destroy him. But I also feel like I should
be honest and like I'm keeping a terrible secret, even though I
actually feel closer to him now than ever. What should I
do?
This is certainly a complicated issue many of us have faced.
There's a spark of attraction with someone new. Things haven't been
quite "right" in your marriage for a long time, and you get swept
away in a moment. Or two, or three... Now you're left with the
question: should you tell your husband?
Here's my take on this, shared by the always awesome Dan Savage,
and I'll warn you, it's a bit controversial, and not a perspective
shared by everyone.